I think that anybody who has a problem with it is being ignorant and stupid. The ONLY ones whose opinions should matter are you and the person you are in the relationship with. The fact that your friends and family are fine with you being with someone from another race is wonderful. You have the biggest part of the ';battle'; won. After that, I wouldn't give a second thought to people who act ignorantly because of their racism. If they tell you that they have a problem with what you or him are doing, then you should look them in the eye and ask them point blank, but very respectfully, ';and why do you feel that way?';.
By asking that, you might be surprised to learn that they feel that way for reasons having nothing to do with race. Or, if the reason they feel that way IS due to race, then you have told them in a considerate manner, that you know what they are doing by making such a statement and you are demonstrating to them that it is THEIR attitude, not your behavior, that is the problem. As for me, a total stranger who does not know you from anyone else, I think that as long as you both treat each other with respect and enjoy each other's company, THAT is what counts in ANY relationship.What is society's tolerance for interracial couples?
allegra i loved your comment as well, i actually posted that article in a blog on my myspace page
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Thanks. Good to hear.
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I agree with you. One would think people wouldn't be so narrow-minded in this day and age. I wish you all the best!!
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What do you care what they think?
It depends on the city you live in. Some locales are more accepting than others, also, certain unions are more common and tolerated ie: white woman %26amp; black man, asian woman %26amp; white man.
I hear Eskimos don't tolerate people in bikinis. If you have the freedom to choose your partner, why shouldn't other people have freedom to criticize you?
I'm in a interracial marriage,I hate that term.Because we are ONE RACE.According to this society its interracial,I dont give a rats *** what anyone thinks or has to say,for me he can be a complete jerk as well as the greatest man alive.We love each other we hate each other.Why do you even care what anyone else thinks.If you do care,then maybe you should think twice about your relationship.
im from the uk. and i think it just generally accepted over here...i dont know anyone who would even think twice about it.
First, I must commend you on your bravery. My niece is getting married to one of the nicest men; but some of our family are as closed minded as I am about same sex. I told her to go and be happy; her family will get over it.
I don't see color.
If I were you and someone approached me with that and said they had a problem with it, I think I would look them in the eye and tell them their opinion was not solicited by me, but I will certainly give it some consideration. Then I would shake my head and walk away.
What business is it of their's? I see nothing wrong with mixed ethnic relationships at all. I am more concerned with exploitation that typically goes on in relationships. In my mind, commitment worth anything means marriage. That's putting your actions where your words are. Words don't mean crap if the walk is not there. Let a few storms come and see who has the walk and who has the talk. If a man finds a woman he loves with all his heart, a real man is not going to care what color she is. I am big, huge even, on not betraying, hurting, or exploiting someone for one's own gratification. Revolving door relationships are for the birds. Actually, only humans do that.
Unfortunately, the cultural identification issues persist. If you had children - they aren't completely embraced by either blacks or whites. I think it probably matters to blacks more at this point - the ';not being black enough'; type of thing.
Who cares...society doesn't keep you warm at night.Tell them..';SO!';
Here's a really cute article I just read on Yahoo! News a few days ago: http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/interracial_m鈥?/a> . Apparently interracial marriages have been flourishing (over the last 40 years, at least). I had forgotten that interracial marriage was in fact illegal until 40 years ago. Absurd.
Anyway, you should be proud to be part of an interracial couple. More people need to step outside what they know and realize that all the stupid boundaries we've constructed for ourselves - race, gender, religion - are arbitrary and pointless and function only to spread more hate than love.
In my opinion, two cultures are better than one. I think it is wonderful to have such a deep knowledge of and appreciation (and love) for the experiences and background of a person different from oneself. It's enriching.
When they came up to you and told you they had a problem with it...did they sound like this?
';I got me a problem with that there relations ya'll got';
It's the area you live in.
I lived in an area like that and now I don't. There is a BIG difference, it seems to be based on the general level of education. I couldn't care less who's dating who, in fact it seems that racial mixing is the ONLY way things will ultimately improve, LIKE IN BRAZIL! Nobody cares what your ';race'; is.
Having said that, the ONLY thing I would warn my daughter, etc. is that as you said, there ARE areas and there ARE people who WILL say things. If you have kids, there are people who WILL say things to them also. You have to be OK with that, or it will drive you crazy, those are just ignorant people.
I think that society does frown upon it, on both sides. I've been with black girls, and their parents seem to always disapprove of them going with a white dude. To me it seems that the black families are more against it than whites in my case.
Does it really matter what society thinks??? If your first thought is ';how does society feel about us'; then you have some other issues you need to deal with, because in the end as long as the two of you are happy and you have the support of your friends and family, who cares about everyone else
dumb asses the lot of em!]]
they must be white! no doubt
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