Why is marriage so important when most couples can't be faithful.?

I can't understand why society views marriage as being important, when most couples can't be faithful. So whats the point in being married?Why is marriage so important when most couples can't be faithful.?
To me, marriage isn't what it used to be, or should be. Couples are moving into each other's apartments, having kids- what's the point of marriage in the first place if you're doing everything except saying ';I do';? So... what's the point of getting married? Hey! You save money on the wedding and if things go wrong, you don't have to pay for a divorce. It's kinda sad, actually...Why is marriage so important when most couples can't be faithful.?
Jan, broad statements like ';when most couples can't be faithful.'; are generally not true, or are incomplete.


Specially your ';numbers'; are wrong, too high. Knowing this, you might have asked a better question.





In this, and in any other situation, make sure you have specific information.


My former Engineering professor told us ';A problem correctly defined is a problem half solved.';


For this forum, that means asking the question with as complete and correct information as you can get.





But, lets follow-up your concern.


I believe your numbers are high.


Often people make ';mistakes'; but understand that they may be faithful for 10 years, screw up one night, and they are now classified as unfaithful.


Compare this to a guy or girl who cheats every weekend.


Two different fish.


All this to say, do not oversimplify what you are talking about.


Cheating is wrong. But people are mostly faithful.





People marry for love and for hope.


It takes great skill to maintain a relationship. Love needs to be nurtured, people change, mistakes are made.





But love is great, hope is good, And many people do succeed.





A better question might be, why don't people learn the skills they need to succeed in relationship?
Marriage is only important to those who deem it so. Of course, there are legal benefits to marriage and there are tax benefits. However, for me, marriage means complete devotion. It means there is a mutual agreement to be companions throughout our lives. It means Commitment to each other. It means standing against all odds as one. It means nurturing each other and providing for each others needs. Marriage is a symbol indicating ';I've found what I want/need/love and promise to forsake all others on behalf of you.';
This is the best question that I've seen posted in some time. I think we have been programmed to think that we have to get married at a certain time in our lives, but conveniently we overlook the glaring statistic that 50% of all marriages fail. So I agree with you...what's the point. I think somehow everyone thinks they will be the couple to defy the odds...and in some cases, (and I know at least two couples who did this) they are already having problems and see the writing on the wall, but still insist on getting married because it was expected of them. I think most people take marriage too lightly. As well a lot of people get caught up in the fairy tale of planning a wedding, but do not plan for the marriage and then some just have the attitude that if it doesn't work out...they'll get divorced. What's the point of getting married?
I see marriage as a seal, an exclusive commitment between two people who are happy with each other and chose to be together to share their lives and the way they live it. What happens after marriage, infidelity, cheating, mistrust, abuse, happens because we let it happen.


Nobody is forced into a marriage. You do it out of your own free will and because you think it is a better deal.


If you don't see the point in getting married, then don't. Stay single.
I used to sneer at married people thinking how much it would suck and how much money it costs to get out. I always looked at it as a way for someone to have control over me or ';own'; me. Now, I am 27 and am really ready to committ myself to him completely, and he feels the same way. My feelings about marriage changed when I met someone whom we have a ';total adoration'; for one another. It really is a gift from God, and I dont even go to church.
Very good question!! I wonder this myself. I think that people have this fantasy of marriage and like to believe that things will work out in the long run, but then they run into difficulties and aren't prepared to work at it. Even my happily-married friends (together around 10 yrs) tell me how incredibly hard it is to maintain a good relationship over time and that they both have to put a lot of conscious effort into making it work.





Nowadays we have internet sex sites, internet dating. . . there's temptation (and the fantasy of instant gratification) literally at the end of your fingertips. It makes it so hard for people not to be tempted, especially if there is a bit of tension between them and their partner . . . contacting another person for no-strings-attached sex is only a mouse-click away. . .



because marriage has been around for thousands of years and it was actually created by God or inspired by him. The thing wrong with marriage, and the world, is control. Everyone wants it but onloy one person in a relationship, country etc. can have it. People dont know how to compensate. That's whats wrong wih marriage
so they can have there cake and eat it to!





The wife can cook, clean, work and hold a job down oh and dont forget about the sex to!





Then the mistress can well just have sex with the married guy!





There u go there are your reasons of why marriage is so important!
It's a old thing, kind of tradition more or less... But your right, most people can't be faithful, and most times I find it doesn't matter if one is married or not, just that they have that agreement is more important.
Good question! I don't know the point either and I am married. Sometimes, I wish I was not married because I really miss being single. I have been married two years and still feel this way. Good luck in your quest for an answer.
Well my husband and i have been happily married 17+yrs and we both have been faithful to each other and always will be cause we respect our vows and neither 1 of us want to be with anybody else.
There is one, and only one, bona fide reason to get married. You love that person.
Tax benefits.
there are more faithful couples than you think, you only hear about the ones that aren't.
someone has to be married